No matter where you look, there’s fear. Whether you watch the news or just spend some time checking your social media, I’m sure you’re also seeing a lot of fear, nervousness and uncertainty. I know that as an empath, I definitely feel what others are feeling.
First of all, I want to reassure you that fear is normal. It’s a primitive emotion, meant to keep us safe.
But when we continue to give in to the fear, it only reinforces it. And when we stay in fear too long, that’s when the problems can start.
But herein lies the paradox. Giving in to your feelings reinforces them, but ignoring them just makes them come back.
So how do you find balance between feeling your emotions and keeping your level of positivity up? How do you honor what you’re feeling but not give in fully?
#1 Identify what you’re feeling right now. Name the emotions.
#2 Ask yourself if you’ve felt those feelings before. Chances are you have felt those feelings before when you have dealt with another crisis. This is how the brain operates. When we face a situation that the brain considers as something to be feared, it goes into fight or flight response mode.
#3 Ask yourself where in your body you are feeling them. Once you can identify the emotion, identify where you actually feel it in your body.
#4 Think about what you would like to experience instead. How do you really want to feel? Focus on the positive feeling.
#5 Take the palm of your right hand and put it where you’re feeling the sensations in your body. Take long deep breaths into that part, breathe out the discomfort.
#6 Bring in the image of what you’d like to experience into your mind’s eye and focus on that.
Come back to these steps whenever you feel yourself freaking out.
Remember, it’s normal to feel fear. It’s our body’s way of telling us that there is something unsafe and to be cautious. But there are many things that are beyond our control, like the pandemic going around the country right now. We can control ourselves, our reactions and how safe we keep ourselves. Everything else, like how this plays out, really isn’t in our control. So when you find yourself in fear of what is uncontrollable, I want to encourage you to take these steps and come back to them as often as needed.